A Solo Road Trip & “Me” Time..

I know Fridays this month are my Thankful posts day, but, I am going to jump ahead a few days & say this: Something I am very thankful for is that while I am in a beautiful, loving, solid relationship with my boyfriend, I also feel independent & able to still have “me” time. Even if I don’t think that I need it….

With my recent road trip to San Luis Obispo & Apple Farm Inn, I was all on my own. Mike couldn’t get away from work, & my original plans of making it a longer weekend with a friend couldn’t pan out. Mike, my Mom & myself started thinking of other people I should go with. Then, not to sound selfish, I decided: I want to just go on my own.

Pismo Beach
Pismo Beach

I’ve been really busy lately with work & our move, so while I miss my friends & haven’t had as much time with them all as I wish, I am still around someone most of the time now. I wouldn’t trade that for the world, yet, its my first time truly living with someone since I moved out of my parents 5 years ago…those past years made me a bit of a loner, & used to so much “me” time.

Simply stuffing what I’d need in a tote bag (c’mon, its only a night!), I headed out when I wanted Friday morning. I took my time, didn’t worry about holding anyone up, nor harassed that someone was keeping me, I hopped in my car, started my music & off I went. With my decision for the first stop to be Crush Cakes Café in Carpentaria.

Huevos Rancheros at Crush Cakes.
Huevos Rancheros at Crush Cakes.

Something I enjoyed the most, & knew this right away; was playing music that first became dear to me back when I lived up north & spent most of my time writing, reading & playing my CDs. I think Joni Mitchell is the perfect coastal road trip soundtrack, & guess what I couldn’t believe to read that morning? It was indeed Joni’s birthday. What a great reminder to blast her melodies & words from my speakers, with the roof top down, Pacific Ocean on my left, & mountains on my right, my favorite of hers, Hejira, accompanied me as I headed for my breakfast stop.

From Song for Sharon, to the works of art on her masterpiece, Blue, Joni Mitchell’s sounds & surroundings never fail to make me feel like I am headed home, but, to my home within myself. Much like I feel a nature connection to Tori Amos, Joni makes me feel transformed far away; in a forest, in my bedroom writing secrets, far from the traffic & noise of LA!

Apple Farm
Apple Farm

While I immensely enjoyed every minute of my ride up, & arrival to Apple Farm, I was met with a slump, & soon learned that I would get slightly lonely. All those things that felt so good to be distant; my breakfast, my Pismo Beach walk, my glass of wine, suddenly made me long for worrying about someone else, having to fret I was taking too long, being too selfish, I longed for my complaints!

Luckily, while missing Mike a bit on Sunday, I was able to clear my head & get the ultimate “me” time that I truly needed: Sitting on the cove at Shell Beach. Spyglass Park, a gorgeous park overlooking the water, as well as having a hike-able trail leading down to the water, has become my ‘secret’ hideaway I look forward to anytime I am travelling by on my own; the last time I was able to escape to it, I was wishing a bit for a boyfriend, a family, somebody to love, some clarity, & it was amazing to look back at those memories & wishes, while thinking of Mike & Hammy: My family.

Spyglass Park in Shell Beach

While I encountered those lonely moments, I am still so thankful for that getaway. Even if you find yourself lonesome a bit, I still recommend everyone get their “me” time; it made me feel refreshed, happy, exposed to the beauty in our world & so thankful that I had so much to head home to. A real “We are one” vibe! Another thing I recommend, is: Don’t feel guilty for wanting that “me” time. Even I felt guilty for not bringing a friend, yet complaining I don’t see them enough, but, needing time with yourself is just as important, too.

When was the last time you did something all on your own? 🙂 xo


A Fresh Start


  1. Erika

    November 18, 2014 at 12:22 pm

    How nice to just go on your own. I’ve never made a trip like that by myself… ever. But now, with kids and NO alone time whatsoever, I think a little getaway like that to just be on my own and write would be awesome!

  2. Pat

    November 18, 2014 at 1:49 pm

    Love this, Mary. I played joni’s song while I was reading it. I could imagine how you were feeling, driving up the coast with the ocean on your left, feeling free and the wind blowing in your hair.

    I’m been getting nudges to do the same, though, haven’t yet. Guess, I’ll just have to get to it. Thank you for sharing — it was refreshing for me, as well. 🙂

  3. karissa

    January 11, 2015 at 5:22 pm

    Great trip! Thanks for linking up for Motivational Monday I hope you’ll join up again!

    1. AlongComesMary

      January 11, 2015 at 10:46 pm

      I love your blog, Karissa! 🙂

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